Alright lets answer this as accurately according to your question as possible highlighting the key points:

REMOTELY

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HARDWARE WALLET

CONNECTION TO YOUR OWN FULL NODE.

Best Answer: DESKTOP ... START9 + SPARROW WALLET + HARDWARE WALLET (of your preference).

You do this over tor without the need for tailscale, VPNs or any other bullshit.

There are other ways, but this is the seamless experience 😉