Install citrine.
It will give you the link to the local relay it is running.
Put the link in your relays.
I added it to my private, search, and local relays in amethyst. That part may be wrong.
Discussion
I got the insatll fine just haven't taken the time to understand the various relay types to configure.
I don't really understand the relay types either. I posted asking about it once but got crickets.
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might be the info you're looking for