i read a book called “the georgetown women’s social club.” the wives in DC politics held dinners & social gatherings that both political parties attended. can be good or bad depending on your view but that culture is over in DC. my point tho is that those spaces for normal conversation were created by women who had the time and resources to design them. and such spaces are necessary among all levels of society. it is the sort of “work” that women have done that was not valued & is lost.