A long time ago, I asked my Russian ex, if his mom asks him for this much money all the time and she’s never been there for him, why does he care to send money or spend time with her, he said “she brought me to America, that’s enough for me I guess but she doesn’t care about me now”

Maybe that’s why I liked/ loved the Russian ex, this was common ground, a relatable point of conversation and emotional attachment, a very strong bond that’s based on healing from childhood trauma.

His mother also like my mother brought him to Texas from Russia (mine bought me here from Asia) when petitioning to the us embassy, they listen to women more than men, especially educated women with small children.