Ohh
so many thoughts and doubts for something beeing so natural.
Yes your body should be young
You should be mentally friendly
Money is noise to this decision. It is something you always go for having more. But in fact the most happy kids i know are the onse with less stuff around them.
The men...
well, that is somehow nessasary i guess,
but i know wimen that wore so centered in this decision to don't need even this (just the nessasary part of a men)
And last but not least.
Trust is a decision
It is not a learning
It is something you do in less than a second.
But you should see the trust topic from another angle.
If you don't mess this up comepletely
your kids will have a natural unbreakable trust to you.
They will heal you somehow i would say and let you see the world through their eyes.
Enjoy your day