haha not bitter at all, it was just sad, reality was very clear to me, he'd blown his budget saving all his possessions from being lost through import taxes back to his home country and didn't want to wear just one month of my costs so i wasn't literally on the border of homeless

and i got a job before a month passed, and it wouldn't have been much different the other way around except he might have got some thanks by way of giving him the money back, and not have lost my trust

meh, stupids gonna stupid, i'm not bitter, it was his loss to throw away my trust like that after i'd been as good as i could be

people do this, they get distracted by other things that aren't as important as the world around them these days, eyes glued to the doom scroll of X and their bank account balance or crypto balances

i'd talk to him again no problem if he actually demonstrated that he understood his actions were cruel and unjustified, but he was clearly so wrapped up in himself he couldn't see straight - and i'm teh one fighting vision loss because of type 2 diabetes, and trying to code at the same time to save my ass