My fiance works in a bar and strongly dislikes a certain group of people who frequently come in and make asses of themselves. Tonight, as they were leaving, they stuck out their hand to my fiance, who had been avoiding them to avoid a scene. He refused their hand and tried to move along. They made a scene.

I have at many points in my life seen men offer their hand to another man to "shake" it as a weird assertion of dominance. Often as "I acted like an asshole and you have to take it because I have power over you." The implication is that the other person has to shake to "make good," when again, the first person was being an ass and the less powerful person more often than not was just calling them on their shit.

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So I think a lot of people are overly sensitive to a lot of things and see problems where they don't exist and pointing to a place where it was a problem here or there results in seeing it everywhere.

These guys are either sophomoric bullies (who in my 20s when I was a bouncer I would have thrown out of my bar). Or possibly they know they have been ass clowns and were honestly trying to apologize but were just too immature to understand that you get to apologize but you don't get to demand it be accepted.

Back to I'd of thrown them out. Just going to say though, if people offering to shake your hand rates as a problem in your life, well, you problem ratio in life is pretty low.