when you are angry at something it is IMPERATIVE that you immediately get away from any of the things that you love

shooting the messenger" is simply how the brain works - your negative emotions are attached to whoever is closest to you when you experience them

so if you're mad - get away from your wife and kids, from any people you like, from any of your favorite hobbies, TV shows, music etc ...

because your anger will make you hate those things and if you let it happen repeatedly you will eventually run out of things you love and then you will have no choice but to kill yourself ...

this is also why it is important to get away from toxic people because the anger they generate will not be directed at them, but at everything around you, eventually making you totally dysfunctional ...

conversely if you're having a great time - get away from any scumbags or you may start to like them ...

be aware of your brain's limitations and leverage that knowledge ...