You do you. But I prefer to get people excited with the least amount of work and open the door so that they can start their bitcoin journey.
Did you and nostr:npub1rjwumr7j6tac08t0qttvc44walt549nc4eyyxjc0phn6yxzj7uzq0accc9 both buy your first sats directly into a multi-sig coldcard? If so, cool. But I’ll bet not.
Starting with custodial also means that you are teeing up the custodial vs self custodial conversation for the future in a way that has personal meaning rather than being theoretical.
I agree with you that self custodial is obviously “the way” and where we want everyone to end up. We only disagree on the most effective way to get them there.