Marriage legalities exist, which should be thought of as divorce incentives, regardless of whether a man defines them or allows the government to.
For long term family success, have a #prenup written that incentivizes making the marriage work instead of ending it.
#MasculineFrame
Good luck with that one. Then we can all live in the fairytale land that follows the rule of law...
Expectations influence outcomes.
When a woman understands the "breakup rules" going into a marriage, she is more likely to internalize them than attempt to work around it.
There is no such thing as a marriage without "breakup rules", but you can write your own or adopt the governments.
The Gov's rules incentivize divorce. I recommend reworking them before getting married. You want your marriage to be you two vs the world not woman against husband.
Your "rules" are imaginary and will be thrown out by the family court. The judge WILL have God like powers to determine "what is best for the child". Don't play yourself, you will lose.
You are missing the point.
I understand your point; I think it is delusional. You can not determine the "breakup rules" the state has already determined them: a mountain of legal presidents in family court will back up my claims.
I think all marriages should be written contracts that have to address what hormones to property and children should a divorce occur. Our system is hopelessly broken.
A man should lead in presenting the idea of declining gov breakup rules in support of his own proposal.
Ideally, a woman has no special incentive to leave the marriage, but has an incentive (like equity) the longer she stays. This arrangement would incentivize the man to provide value that would increase the woman's security over time. If the man gave up or was a deadbeat, he would incentivize the woman to leave.
Another potential primitive would be a delay on vesting, such that a woman did not accrue equity until the start of year 11.
This would eliminate those marrying exclusively for wealth, as the cost of gold digging would require faking for decades.
Ultimately economics rule our, and every other organism’s behavior. If we’re curious, we, unlike other animals can see the roots of our motivations and subsequent actions. Most people of course, routinely act like dumb animals…..
Yup. No reason to attribute to malice what can be attributed to incentives.
