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I'm definitely not a leftist but I had a brother until about 2.5 years ago. He was gay. Pretend you're me and you have to sit there and listen to people talk shit about your dead brother who they never even knew. He was a mechanic. He was the best mechanic in the shop and he changed the morale of that shop during his tenure there. He even helped the wife of a fellow mechanic to leave her home and get over her agoraphobia.

But yeah...it's totally appropriate to make jokes at the expense of everyone within a group, especially when they didn't choose to be a part of that group...a fact I can verify having grown up with him, watching him grow. The flamboyant tendencies were there just under the surface going back to preschool age.

You're free to speak however you like, but maybe you should consider using language that is specific and helpful rather than vague and hurtful to people you don't know whose perspectives you've not considered?

spoonman 2y ago

My sister used to call things gay all the time before she died. She was a parking ticket officer, which she also thought was pretty gay, but she had to pay her bills. I miss her a lot.

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RedTailHawk 2y ago

Some things are gay.

It's not the word.

It's how the word is used.

When it's used derogatorily, that's really not ok, but you're free to be a dick if you want and I'll fight for your right to be a dick.

It's your choice though whether or not you want to be a dick.

If you want to use the word in a neutral, denotational manner, have at it. I certainly don't mind. I used the word when it's appropriate to do so.