Embrace asynchrony 
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Used to have an older friend back in the day of wall phones. It would ring and he would just let it ring out. His explanation was it’s there for my convenience not other peoples. Always stuck with me
The Nostr way
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I remember working with people who had outlook pop a message whenever they receive a mail. I could never understand why anyone would want that.
Literally ALL of human history up until a few presidents ago......