yes, I am the designated representative of my family, so I do have to represent all sides of the story – this one being the result of constant retraumatization due to unresolved mental illness (partly mine, mostly my mother's) and the unexpressed tensions of my siblings, who can and should speak for themselves on these matters, if and when they ever decide to.
granted, I don't think they need to say much else because I know and remember the way we have all felt about this and I try to be as honest about it as possible, though I would prefer people not harass my family at all and especially not as a form of entertainment.
I think the fact is that all families have issues and some have it far worse than mine, so that's why I'm not out there trying to #metoo my family. most of us know that the Democrat party was pushing that outcome more than anyone, and they did place an extreme and undue amount of pressure on me to capitulate to their extrajudicial devices.
no thanks and I prefer prayer and supplication before God. I also know how to resolve my own disputes logically and have a great deal of disdain for external manipulation.
I'm not pretending everything is perfect, which is why I can say what I want to say.
my only hope here is that my words help families deal with intense situations better and learn how to communicate.
it's ok to describe your deepest, darkest feelings but it's probably not ok to discontinue the conversation (especially if it's been taken to the public domain) because you think you've said it all. this just indicates that there's still much more to learn.
nobody, and I do mean nobody, is perfect.
but being honest and expressing how you feel is a good thing, actually, and prior generations never really had the entire internet as a forum.
I have not always used this forum wisely, but I'm learning how to communicate with the aim of making things better in the here and now, and for the future, too.
if someone is being outright abusive then it's good to call them out for it, but remember that these sorts of situations tend to trigger lots of trauma and activate the inner demons quite effectively.
nobody wants to be a happy family in public and an unhappy family in private. I've been there and I hate it. I want my family to be happy both in public and in private, though at times this does seem like an insurmountable task!
if you're struggling with dark feelings about your family, I just want you to know that I care and I am always willing to listen and offer some advice if you need it. no judgment, and a shoulder to cry on if you need that, too.
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