The critical difference is the fediverse has blocks between servers. A server owns and controls all users and content. You can’t trust a fediverse server to act on your behalf. They can change who you follow or what you see.

In Nostr because we use multiple relays and the content is signed by users who control their own content and social graph the power dynamic is flipped.

I as a user, can choose to use relays that will respect my block messages to not show my posts to Joe stalker, or I could use a relay that will share my posts. If a relay goes ‘evil’ and stops following our agreement, I can easily move all of my content to another relay.

Agency and autonomy matter. If you don’t like relays that enforce blocks, don’t use them, run a really that follows different rules.

I think we need more information from relays about how they’re run, who’s running them, what nips they implement, and what their rules are. That way we can all make informed choices about which ones we want to use.