Trust is important to build early. I try not to have a locked cabinet nor do i try to play the game of "im hiding this thing that I don't want you to have but if you find it that means you can play with it". I try to build trust with them. I will tell them that they can't have the candy and that I'm not hiding it from them but I am putting it slightly out of their reach so they have to think about it and remember that we talked about how they weren't going to eat it till the next time. I also try and have pretty frank discussions with them about alcohol and guns. The guns are locked up but we talk about how it's not that they can't use them, but we need to do it together until they can prove they have the knowledge to use it on their own. Same thing with the TV remote. If they aren't allowed to watch TV at a certain time, I'll put the remote in a different spot where they know where it is, but they know that when it's in that spot they need to do their chores first. It's not always effective, but it does lead to better discussions than the prey"hiding" and predator"seek and disobey"method. The determination and resilience is a very good thing but hopefully it can be directed in a healthy manner other than disrespectful manners. To each their own. Just something i try.