S4 years should be focused on both of you, not yourselves. If you were helping s bud mi e, she should have tried to help. You could have done *something* on her actual birthday, but I wouldn't expect you to go all out.
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Yea, I’m upset because I did, I planned a whole evening of doing stuff and dinner but because she didn’t get a few small things she wanted, I’m now in the dog house 🥲