I think that on chain Bitcoin should be transparent, and privacy attained on other "layers". I also think on chain Bitcoin is not for everyday transactions, nor should any block chain be. To keep an on public record of every single transaction is unnecessary.
I saw that you didn't want to try to dox nostr:nprofile1qqszrqlfgavys8g0zf8mmy79dn92ghn723wwawx49py0nqjn7jtmjagpz4mhxue69uhkummnw3ezummcw3ezuer9wchszyrhwden5te0dehhxarj9ekk7mf0qy88wumn8ghj7mn0wvhxcmmv9uynmh4h lightning payment. I don't think anyone from the xmr community has stepped up to the challenge.
Personally, I don't have enough knowledge to figure it out on either end, I'm left trusting what others say, and right now it sounds like the privacy on lightning is more than sufficient for my needs and many others. I'd rather stay tied to Bitcoin rather that participate in two systems.
Integrate rather than segregate, decentralize while staying unified.