The author of this image values alone time. I value social time. Because I'm almost always alone.
It is hard to increase your "social" as an introverted single adult. But this isn't obvious because childhood and school throws so much social at you that you learn to take it for granted.
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Yeah it's much harder to make friends as an adult because you don't get crammed in with people whether you like it or not. You also have more of a common enemy so it's easier to make friends.
I was not so great at doing stuff alone actually but i've learned it and love it now even though i still think i need to up my social game outside of the wife and kids as well.
Having a wife and kids would be perhaps even too much for me.
Its different when its your property
Wife was easy coming. We dated for 4 years while still living in our own houses. We bought a house together and then some 3 years later our first child was born.
I was always of the opinion i wanted 2 kids because i thought it would be good for them but after the first year of having a baby i had serious doubts if i was fit for this. It took me around 2 years of hard grinding with feeding, changing diapers and providing playful entertainment before i got used to it. It was because of this and a miscarriage that there is 4 year gap between my kids. Second one was just as hard for the first year at least but with a better future in mind it felt easier.
Now i enjoy them and love m to death. They sometimes take a trip for a few days without me and as much as i enjoy my alone time at home as well it also feels way to quiet. Like somehow i have gotten used to and actually sort of enjoy having noisy kids around me constantly.
Alone time in and around the house is sparse but i do go out and hike for a couple of hours a few times a week.
