Dangerous opinion: good marriages are “boring”.

I put boring in quotes because this is the way bad marriages are typically portrayed in the media. Ie: one spouse loses that “spark” which causes the audience to pity their partner and applaud when a hot and exciting alternative appears that gives them the attention he/she “deserves”.

What bullshit. I understand that a marriage marked by predictability and reliability won’t sell many romance novels but holy shit, if that ain’t one of the most valuable things on earth, I don’t know what else would be.

I believe marriage or human partnership (whatever you want to call it) succeeds when both people can count on the other to mostly take care of themselves but help each other out when needed. Instead of being grounds for concern, being able to take each other for granted from time to time is some of the best ingredient for a successful marriage. As long as it’s not always one sided, we should cherish, recognize, and celebrate that kind of thing far more often.

Again, I suspect the reason why we aren’t exposed to this kind of thinking is that it does nothing to make others money if we can find contentment even in the sweet banality of our mature relationships. Better to keep people striving for unattainable and unrealistic ideals. That’s where the profit lies.

Screw that. Give me some of that sweet predictability any day.

#grownostr

#thinkdangerously

#getoffended