Every solution has tradeoffs. The short comings of Monero is a dwindling network effect, bloated nodes and a culture of hard forks.

If you personally want privacy on bitcoin, it's easy to achieve. If other people don't want it, it doesn't affect you.

Your view that "nobody uses lightning" meanwhile there are more lightning nodes than Monero nodes and you're on Nostr where lightning is native shows you might be stuck in a bit of an echo chamber.

There are entire countries using bitcoin and lightning as legal tender...