Buddy how many liberal memes deep are we into this conversation from both of us and you break out the line that people are generally telling you the HIGHLIGHTS? I shudder to imagine what the whole cannoli looks like!
But no, that's completely bullshit. A person with a great ability to articulate their point and a confidence in their understanding of the other person's thought process will be concise, but that is the exception, not the rule. God damn, I'm having PTSD flashbacks to that one Christian I talked with who would literally talk for multiple hours spanning across half a dozen different topics when I asked him a simple religious question and not even end up answering the damn question. It was our third conversation before he reluctantly admitted that he could stand to ask me a question or two, and even that was only after someone explicitly told him as much.
You are 100% correct that I am judging their ability to determine what is and what is not significant. A person cannot know what is significant in a conversation with me unless they have asked me many questions about my beliefs and know my position well. Listen, I'm not going to stop talking with someone just because they told me something that would have literally zero affect on my beliefs regardless of if it was true. But that doesn't mean I'm going to accept hours and hours of homework from someone who refuses to take the time to ask about my own position and listen to it for just a few minutes.