You ask men what they look for in a woman and they generally tell you 2 things:

1) I want her to look good

2) peace (no unnecessary drama)

But instead of "peace" what they really mean is genuine burning desire (GBD).

If I had to summarize GBD in one word, it would be enthusiasm.

It's when she thinks you're her best option.

If she thinks you are her best option, it will be reflected in her behavior towards you, and if she doesn't, it will again be reflected in her behavior.

Dating a woman who doesn't think you're her best option is largely a waste of time. And of course wasting time can be fun sometimes, but she's looking for your replacement and you should be looking for her replacement.