no one is deluding themselves that custodial LN wallets are a viable long term solution, but they are undeniably important in supporting the protocol iterate quickly and gain awarenesd.
mtgox, bitfinex, ftx were all parts in the growth of bitcoin while better solutions like multisig and hardware wallets matured and perfected
LN is growing to be a surprisingly robust and reliable part of the bitcoin stack and it'll find its perfect fit in the puzzle, adding its strengths and being supplemented for its weaknesses through other tradeoffs
don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good
don't fall for concern fud