nostr:npub126nxazdhwddu3ygyuctg98r3c2zgl0ykevtghfu4laq9mcj09zks7ey4cy >o, my posts only get federated if someone from that instance follows me

No thats not the only way, its the biggest way, posts also federate by likes, boot's and searching (and some natural federation)

>federation is not a perfect replacement of centralized platforms afterall

Its fine, but anyways why would you want more fags on here.