Maybe keeping the digital space decentralized while accepting some centralization in the physical world will be the solution. For example, living in large communities with centralized law and rule, but allowing for the collective consciousness to stay decentralized in the digital world.

My personal guess is that the standard is big centralized points built on top of decentralized systems. Things start out centralized since some company needs the capital and willpower to get something going, but eventually some standard comes along.

The standard, whatever it is, is easier to spin up because it takes less R&D and lets both big companies and individual users play together nicely. Like email, it retains its roots and anybody can have their own domain &/or server, but is mostly centralized around a few big platforms (Google, Microsoft, etc) because of ease of use and economies of scale. Betting that decentralized social media is going follow the same trend, a bunch of Threads and BlueSkies with a few individual self hosted users and communities on a decentralized set of standards mostly congregating around a small handful centralized platforms.

Just spitballing though, I don't have any data to backup my predictions.