Helpful, thank you
You should check out uncoveringintimacy.com and the podcast they put out called the Sex Within Marriage podcast. One of their recent Q&A episodes addressed something like this: https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-127-aq-not-interested-in-sex-are-men-infatuated-with-ejaculate-and-many-more-questions/
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Another resource from them I just came across: