I think that if we want a non-technical userbase, there is only so much configuration they will tolerate. So for clients that cater to regular people like Damus, it's reasonable to hide some of it.. but not all of it. I think users should definitely choose where to post... choosing where to read from is less concerning, but if a relay starts censoring someone you'll want to find their stuff elsewhere. So there needs to be a way to dig into the settings and adjust things, but it also should "just work" for those many people who never dare dig into settings panels.
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The key point is that these things shouldn't be restricted to a settings panel, they should be made an integral part of the experience.
Yeah. I think posts should show where they came from ideally without needing to click a pulldown. But I'm trying to figure out how to make it not take too much space at the same time.