I'm guilty of this, I think many people are. Its hard with Nostr - who are complaints really directed to: the protocol itself, client devs, relay devs, relay operators? I think a lot of times people complain about Nostr as a whole because they have an issue and don't know where to look.

I will say, some of Nostr's cheerleaders bring this on, and I'm guilty of that as well. The "Fuck Xitter, Nostr only because its going to devour and power the entire fucking internet bro!" crowd sets people in a mindset that this thing is flawless, so when people get here and stuff is finicky and a WIP, they walk away saying, "well that was all bullshit."