I'd like to see the "this is the correct gender for care taking" attitude people to switch roles with their partners and provide the care their partner currently provides. Let's see how long they last.
Seriously though.. dudes that have little respect for how much work the women put into raising kids are speaking out of line. Do her job for two years THEN tell me all about those gender roles we should all exemplify.
Some dudes make it sound like "providing" for their family is hard. Nah bro. That's the easy part. Raising the kids is the hard part. Be there and find out for yourself.
I've seen videos of "fathers" that don't even remember their children's birthdays. It's sad.
The idea of strict gender roles in parenting is a bit preposterous when life loves derailing plans. It's best if both are capable of handling everything, divying up the labor as necessary, in the tragic event one passes away too early. Learning new responsibilities while grieving should be avoided.
The nuance is necessary. Blanket statements don't do anyone's justice.
You can still think that men tend to do better with running businesses and women with running household, but that itself doesn't imply anything about A being more valuable than B. Or that A can do better in B's role or vice versa.
Given that to me, it's a rather obvious statement (same as the "tend to" does not mean absolutes), then it's rather derogatory to women when people get automatically mad about anyone saying that women tend to be better with households.
- it has stronf fiat focused mindset; "making money is the most important thing" - spoiler, it absolutely isn't.
The dudes who espouse those views in such black and white ways are typically single dudes who haven't had a girlfriend recently, let alone married with children.
Yes, it's handy for one to focus primarily on the children and the other to focus on income generation/home maintenance but I regularly do dishes tidy the livingroom, sweep floors or whatever else is needed. I can also look after my daughter on my own if I need to.
The balance is pretty fluid. You work as a team to keep the house running. That's what these guys miss.
I had to put the work in. I didnāt really want to do it. It was a whole lot of work. After a while thatās all that was leftā¦. A dad. The man had to wait a little to get back out of his cave. Regardless of who does the jobā¦ spend time with your kids. Itās not glorious, but itās worth it.
well said.
