Bless your heart. Yes. You are cool. Let me know what you wind up using software wise for a relay. I'm curious about that myself.
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So in #Start9 's #StartOS there is one build-in Nostr Relay called "Nostr RS Relay" version 0.8.13. This only exposes an address via TOR (and another local one, via naked HTTP on a LOCAL address).
So I'm stuck either using a iOS nostr client that supports TOR (I've found none yet) or using something like a WireGuard VPN tunnel on-the-go to connect my iPhone to my home network to be able to connect to the naked HTTP.LOCAL port.
Simply put: I am not able to use my Nostr relay.
What am I missing #asknostr ? How can I use my own relay while using a popular client like @primal on my iPhone?