Honest question. How exactly does a grown man make new friends?
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Hobbies, kids events(if applicable), church.
Seconding hobbies. As long as those hobbies take you around people. Go to conferences or stores where youāre likely to meet people.
Oh, and nostr harder. Iāve connected with several who I now chat with almost daily, including IM.
Yeah but ... online doesn't count. I would say the easiness of finding one's tribe online is making us picky about real world acquaintances.
Online, 99% of my interactions are with bitcoiners. In the real world, if knowing bitcoin was a precondition, I'd filter out 99% of the people I bump into.
Speak to people. Make observations in line. Accept any and every invitation. Go to meetups for things you're interested in. Take a class. Find a camping group. Donate time to charity (and talk to people).
Most of the time it only takes one acquaintance to introduce you to a group and you're in.
Hmmm sounds like I need to get a hobby. The few I have tend to be solo activities.
I talk to people when Iām out and about and I consider myself a very friendly person. But my wife says I come across unapproachable and assholish.
Thatās a tough question. And an important one.
Meetups of common interest? Do you have kids? A church?
Do you golf or have a desire to start? Iām not big into golf, but Iāve played with a people I didnāt know and had a good time.
Daughter is grown. No church.
I tried to get into golf but just didnāt enjoy it. I was in a fencing group for a bit they shut down during covid. My only other activities are gardening, reading, and bitcoin.
Have you tried Bitcoin meetups in your area? Maybe you could find people there who want to do a book club. Then you have an excuse together monthly, weekly, whatever just to hang out and maybe talk about the book.
By pulling his guard down.
Find a place where guys are doing stuff you want to do
You need some reason to be around other people and see the same faces a dozen times, ideally with a shared interest.
Bitcoin meetups are not available where I live and I certainly got to know some people from trying to organize one but there is other meetups. Pick something that happens weekly with not too much and not too little turn over. If it's the same people every week (bowling club), it's probably not easy to fit in. If it's different people every time (Sunday cinema matinee), it's not good neither.
Since I have a kid it's definitely easier but the shared interest being kids can get a bit boring ;)
Martial arts
By zapping sats on nostr, of course!
Only by Nostr through #Bitcoin stuffs and hate of government.
Polycules
I think thereās an Orange Pill app for Bitcoiners to find each other. I havenāt personally used it, though.
Good luck, though. Itās probably been 5 years since I made a new friend, and Iāve moved since then.
Aa a few others have mentioned, martial arts is a great option.
THERE IS AN APP FOR THAT..