i believe that it's because gravity is produced by a special quantum state of electrons that are in a formation that i am calling a "binary electron pair" - they trade their electrical charge for mass and form a kind of "gas cloud" around matter and their function is to push matter back together because the fabric of space time is in a constant process of expansion like cell division (you can divide nothing infinitely, right?)

the *effect* we observe as gravity is caused by the same surface tension equalization that you see when two droplets of a liquid join together, once their clouds are sufficiently overlapped, they optimize from the figure 8 shape towards the sphere and thus in doing so move the nucleus of the clouds (the matter) to a common center

lastly, the time of transit of this information is instantaneous because these clouds have no real mass, and thus are not bound by the lightspeed limitation in the transit, and the speed at which they push the two cloud nuclei (the matter we see) at the rate at which the cloud reconfigures into a sphere

the phenomenon of orbiting has to do with the fact that the cloud's shape is distorted in a similar way to how gas comes off a comet when it approaches a star - the nucleus is not in the center, when considered as a static snapshot of its motion, but relative to itself, that shape is actually a sphere, however, as the inertia of each object is different, this allows objects to form orbits with each other, where they never fully come to merging the nucleus via impact, this can continue for a long time especially if other clouds are playing a role in pulling the two masses in opposite directions a lot of the time, and there is a threshold distance called the "gravity well" which if they are not close enough, the inertia and external clouds can maintain an orbit practically forever, as their distorted clouds due to their inertia never line up, always one at an angle away from the other, or like Douglas Adams said in his books "how you fly, is you throw yourself at the ground, and miss"