I'm a pull maximalist for everything other than DM with people I meet regularly IRL (there could be some emergency).
So mail or nostr dm for me...
Discussion
🎯 Push notifications are primarily focused on getting your attention in real-time, which can snowball quickly to being a big distraction
Allocate dedicated comm time in your life (pull style), and then limit push-comms all the rest of your time to focus on & enjoy who you're with