I hear you and totally understand your point. I think a lot of what your feeling is simply because this network is still so small; it's attracted like minded people that are into similar topics (Bitcoin/freedom/etc). If you're not passionate about those things I could totally see how it being EVERYWHERE could be off-putting. I think that problem will slowly solve itself over time, but nevertheless, it's a very understandable feeling on your end.
Hashtags like #grownostr are our attempt at branching out to other topics, but still totally get your point.
The #zapathon event you're referring to was originally to give people like yourself (new to Bitcoin) a way to get some sats for free so that they could participate in this new idea. I agree it's kinda turned into a weird frenzy at this point. But it has imo very wholesome intentions.
I wouldn't worry about people not wanting to interact with you because you don't use zaps. Zaps are just a form of appreciation. But we still appreciate good discussion - zaps or no zaps - like what's happening here! 😁
p.s. if you have any interest in sending zaps, your wallet seem to be working. Depending on which app you are using I wouldn't mind explaining how to set up the ability to send. Just an offer, no worries if you are not interested