Then we’re not really in disagreement. I don’t think the two are mutually exclusive, just as you don’t. I don’t believe women’s behavior should be forced on an issue like porn/modesty/etc. Freedom should be maximized up to the point it violates another’s rights.

But I have no issue with attempting to convince either gender that a specific behavior may be bad for them, or that they should do better. The choice to listen or not should be protected.