Relay management is key. You'll need to try to remove some, ones that have high pings or lots of errors.
Discussion
Okay down to 5 low latency relays. Much better now 🙏
Still concerned I may not see everyone's notes, though. Is there a minimum number I should have?
you can switch between relays or sets of relays, if you aren’t connected to shared relays between yourself and content of interest, you may not see their events.