Also an amazing source on most things #nostr
https://intuitiveguy.bevstr.com
This is a great source to get you started if you have questions about parts of the Nostr process. If you are not a fan, DON’T GIVE UP. At least try a different Client first. What client/clients are you currently using? Some popular ones I see that people use a lot are Amethyst, Damus, Primal, and Nostur. It’s important to try and keep this alive and moving forward. Join us!
https://nostr.how/en/what-is-nostr
Once you do have a good handle on Nostr in general, this youtube vid will show you how to set up that lightning feature for payments if you are running Damus. The same thing applies to other lightning wallets as well if you don’t have or want or have access to Wallet of Satoshi