Also I haven’t figured out how to tell someone, typically a friend, your list and expectations are batshit crazy in a polite way. I’m taking suggestions.
Discussion
Male logic: "Don't be daft! That'll never happen! 🙄"
Female logic: "Look here... you'll be searching for a mate your entire life if you hold on to standards such as those. I think, deep down, you know I'm talkin' sense here. I'm only tryin' to help you, love! 🫂"
I have told friends before that the person described in their list doesn’t exist. I’ve also been like ok so what’s the 60-80% of the list that’s really necessary and what are the nice to haves. I’ve also suggested people look at their list and for everything they’re asking for evaluate how they’re bringing that or a complimentary trait to the table.
I've told people they're kidding themselves, but it didn't go over well.
Were you straightforward about it or did ya let 'em down easy?
I'm autistic. I don't really have a "let 'em down easy" mode.
I've always been somewhat speculative about whether my daughter possesses some level of autism. She becomes obsessed with certain things, like a particular song that she'll play on the piano for days (sometimes weeks) on end, or perhaps a painting that she'll try to copy herself to near perfection. She's becoming surprisingly good at playing chess as well. My mum has been teaching her how to play recently. I'll have to get her tested at some point.
Your friends must absolutely adore it when you're constantly correcting them on everything. 😅🤣
In situations like these, or when I’m pretty obviously being elimi-dated (I’m stealing that, BTW), I channel my inner Mark Baum from The Big Short. No, I don’t say it out loud. https://video.nostr.build/cbbde2dd72afd6bfef360d8a9527c682a070e708711e441520cd102197d9335a.mp4