haha yeah i agree about those dark patterns, and you know they put you in a high visibility position for a long time
relay admins being able to do what they want to do is part of the whole point of this, there is no uniform view, you can reject them by removing them from your relay list or change your client or mute the crap you don't like
orange pilling is boring as fuck, i also agree with that, i don't follow many things on nostr, only ones that are interesting or relevant, as a result i have way more followers than i follow because i stick to what i like instead of trying to find entertainment in the noise, and the noise level is very high
i am a bitcoin maximalist but i am not so stupid as to think that it is wise to isolate from and spend too much time raging against stupidity because it's a bad example to set, it's a waste of time, and that waste is that you aren't doing things that are actually productive and good uses of time