Good insight. Men should always strive to be so good that it's intimidating. That's being respectable.

Lesser men can't be respectable, so they can only be scary.

And of course women should be able to tell the difference, respect a good man, and stay away from the scary ones.

But you can flip that round. A good woman should be strong and graceful, and men should respect that. A weak woman will wield sex as a weapon, and men should know to stay away.