just this very day i am having a quite heated thread with a nostr client dev about the subject of actually disappearing who i mute and this new, fancy idea of "private mutes"

he is japanese, i think, so he has this acute sense of manners and not being overtly gfy

but he's modifying the client to make it more reasonable for the case where

yeah, it was a big problem, private mutes are no good for my relay access control system, they are based on public mute lists for the blacklist part of them (to mute from what is allowed by a two level social graph (follows of follows)

i recommend you join my crusade against shitty nostr clients, and we have an ally in the #jumble dev, he understands the reason why this matters and i'm pleased because the rest of them are dull as a chunk of coal