I’m probably coming from a different mindset at this time, please see my other notes within the thread. Dying to self means to put one’s desires dead last and family’s ahead. The juggernaut in this is if the husband’s parents are in need and the wife interferes, she is the one to get the short end of the deal and the he makes no apologies, one big fat zero. However, it’s relative and all a matter of perspective really. It becomes fragile balance where he must decide but stand firm in his decision.