Masculinity Under Siege: The West’s Impossible Demands on Men

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In Western society, boys are raised to be girls from the earliest stages of their education, conditioned in schools to sit still, behave obediently, and suppress their natural inclinations for roughhousing or assertiveness. This upbringing drills into them a dual mandate: to be more like women and to serve women. Men are feminized by society and women alike, stripped of the rugged, masculine traits that once defined manhood and—ironically—the very qualities that draw women to them.

You can see it all around society: men in dresses, men wearing makeup, men being told to sit down, shut up, and stop taking up space. At home, on the other side of the coin, they are expected to protect women, prioritizing their safety and well-being above their own. In times of crisis, such as a military draft, men are the ones called to lay down their lives—a duty rooted in traditional masculinity that society still clings to when convenient.

Day-to-day courtesies reinforce this expectation: men must open doors, speak kindly, and show deference and respect to women, all under the guise of chivalry that is not respected by women and is oftentimes scorned. There’s video all over the internet of women mocking and disrespecting traditionally masculine gestures, such as opening the door. There are videos all over YouTube of women disrespecting men and their roles in society. Men are expected to respect women—but men are not to expect any reciprocity of such respect from women.

Men are raised and taught how they should treat women. They are raised and told about their duties and responsibilities to women. There is no such training for women on what they need to reciprocate to men. Women are positioned as recipients of service from men, who are tasked with making them feel safe and attending to their emotional needs. The message is clear—masculinity is only acceptable when it benefits women.

This one-sided dynamic extends into the legal and social realms. Marriage and family courts often disproportionately favor women, with men expected to accept unequal outcomes as part of their societal burden. Men are told to suppress their frustrations, to "man up," while simultaneously being tone-policed into softening their voices and shedding tears like women.

Yet, this push for feminization comes with a catch—by shedding their masculinity to meet these demands, men lose the strength, confidence, and stoicism that women instinctively find attractive. There are countless videos on social media of women expressing their revulsion toward feminine men. That’s the complaint: men are too feminine nowadays. When men were masculine, that was called “toxic masculinity.” When men feminized and softened up, they were reviled by women once again.

Men can’t win. If they are masculine, they’re rebuked. If they are feminized, they’re rebuked again. The irony is stark: society and women demand that men become more feminine to fix their "toxic masculinity," yet when they comply, they are met with disdain from the very women who championed this change—left unappealing in the eyes of those they were taught to serve.

This feminization of men doesn’t just erode personal relationships—it places Western society at existential risk. While the West busies itself turning its men into softened, emotionally fragile "sissies" under the banner of feminism, its enemies—nations and tribes hardened by conflict—cultivate unapologetically masculine warriors. These are men raised in cultures where battle is a way of life, where strength, aggression, and resilience are not just valued but essential for survival.

Picture a war between these two worlds: on one side, feminized Western men, conditioned to cry and cater to feelings, their masculinity stripped away by decades of cultural reprogramming; on the other, fierce, battle-tested tribes who have spent generations fighting to kill or be killed. How well will that end for the women of Western society, who will watch helplessly as their sissified protectors fall in combat—men who were never built up to be strong, masculine defenders of their homes, families, and way of life?

By prioritizing the softening of men over their fortification, the West has left itself vulnerable, handing its adversaries a glaring advantage in any future clash of civilizations.

Imagine a world war breaking out tomorrow. Would society feel secure knowing its soldiers and marines are weeping endlessly on the battlefield? Would women, children, and the elderly feel safe entrusting their survival to men who have been conditioned to emulate the emotional expressiveness of a five-year-old girl?

The absurdity is glaring. A society facing an existential threat cannot afford to field an army of men trained to prioritize feelings over fortitude. Yet this is the contradiction Western culture has engineered—men must be masculine enough to fight and die, but feminine enough to cater to emotional whims in peacetime. They are expected to toggle seamlessly between these roles, always knowing precisely when to cry and when to stand firm, all while serving women without question.

This relentless focus on men's duties—to women, to society—stands in sharp contrast to the absence of reciprocal expectations. Men are taught to respect women as a fundamental obligation, yet women are rarely, if ever, taught to respect men in kind. The cultural narrative fixates on what men owe—never on what women might owe men or society.

Women are increasingly liberated from traditional gender roles, free to pursue independence and self-fulfillment, while men are shackled to theirs—expected to provide, protect, and sacrifice without complaint. Even as women push for men to shed "toxic" traits and embrace femininity, they balk when the result is a generation of softened men no longer fitting the masculine archetype they instinctively desire.

The fallout is predictable. Men are dropping out—of dating, of marriage, of societal participation altogether. Why wouldn’t they? The bargain is lopsided: endless obligations with no reward, a masculinity celebrated only when it serves others and vilified when it asserts itself. Society tells men to be both protector and nurturer, stoic and sensitive, masculine and feminine—all while offering nothing in return but criticism and contempt.

The push to feminize men has backfired, leaving women frustrated with the very outcomes they demanded, and men disillusioned with a culture that sees them as disposable tools.

The war on Western masculinity is not just a cultural trend—it’s a crisis with dire implications. By valuing men only for their service to women, society has stripped masculinity of its intrinsic worth, reducing it to a performance judged solely by its utility. Worse, by intentionally weakening its men while its enemies sharpen theirs, the West gambles with its survival.

When the sissified men of this society—products of a misguided ideology—fall to the masculine warriors of warring tribes, the women who cheered their emasculation will face the consequences of a society undefended. Until the conversation shifts to include mutual respect, shared duties, and a recognition of men’s value beyond their sacrifices, the casualties of this war will continue to mount—quietly, as men walk away from a system that demands everything and offers nothing, and catastrophically, when the West’s enemies exploit the weakness it has sown.

Women will ultimately face the consequences of weakening the very men meant to protect them—when those men fall to stronger, more brutal adversaries, and the task of facing the barbarians falls to them alone. Maybe then, after being folded up like lawn chairs, they’ll start to reconsider the choices that led them—and the culture they helped shape—to emasculate their own defenders, all while demanding those same men accept a rigged deal or risk being told they’re not “real men.” Society & Women demanded that men be both feminized sissies and protectors and providers. You can't have both. You can either have your men be sissies. Or you can have them be protectors and providers. Society will demand that men be both feminized and providers completely oblivious to this contradiction and that's why women and society continue to let men down.