It’s objective, period.
“Oh that person is so nice. They call me by my pronouns even though they know I’m really just a mentally ill dude in a dress.”
That’s not kindness, it’s damnation.
Discussion
I agree with you, nobody as required to be "kind" either regard of their perspective of what that is, I choose to be kind in my understanding and believe around it, others are different. It's personal.