You said 'good women'.
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I don't associate with bad men or women.
How do you avoid them in the workplace?
I don't avoid bad people in the workplace. I act like an adult and deal with them as appropriately as I can. That rarely involves bringing in a third party. I give people small tests that tell me whether they will accept my personality or not. If they fail, I keep our interactions brief and focused only on what's relevant to our work. If they pass, I slowly open up more and test until I know the limit of our relationship. This can be exhausting in large numbers, but I've mostly worked on smaller teams. To be clear, not everyone I limit my interactions with are bad people. They're just inconsistent with my personality. I've actually met very few people I consider bad at their core. And bad is a loose term that I'm in no mood to explore here. Everyone will have an opinion on it. Values are key to measuring people for yourself.
I get what your saying but the "I don't associate" seems like hardly ever a possible solution in the workplace. You're strategy seems pretty solid. That said, I think I ran into situations that would've gone beyond this scope/goal.
I'm not a guru. I don't have all the answers. I just deal with stuff as it comes up like anyone else. I think you're confusing association with interaction. Association to me means to build a relationship beyond what is strictly necessary. I have to interact with people I don't like all the time. That doesn't mean I am powerless. I can have boundaries and limits. At times that has meant leaving a company. You can't avoid that without being the only human on the planet. Even then I'll eventually piss myself off 😂
To be more clear, I may interact with thieves when they rob me, but that doesn't mean I associate with thieves.
Yup, thanks. You definitely refined your explanation. I understand better what you were trying to tell me.
I could write a book on this topic I'm sure. Lol It's hard to type on a phone in depth explanations like this. I appreciate the opportunity to clarify and think deeper on it.
Admittedly, my freedom in this regard has improved with age, technology, and wealth. I can limit interactions I don't like more than ever before. That privilege isn't lost on me. Just do the best you can with what you have.
I just don't honor or uplift people unless I believe they are overall good people. I simply don't associate with them otherwise. Life is far more peaceful and safe that way. I wanted to make that distinction, because some men and women think it's their duty to remain loyal to bad, toxic, or incompatible people. It isn't. Disassociation is the proper response in those cases. You should never try to hurt others though. Uplift or leave. That's how I TRY to live. I have failed at times but learn and grow.