I think I'd have to agree. I'm simply a pleb utilizing all these awesome tools that people like you are building but these high-fees on chain have magnified the limitations of Lightning. Ever since fees spiked I have been running into constant hiccups with my non-custodial LN wallets.
I personally love using Liquid. I think newbies should start there because you get the exact same experience/flow of operating on-chain but without the enormous fees. Get some reps in before pegging out. eCash will be sweet too once it's integrated further.