One of my grandfathers had 9 kids, all of which had kids besides one who was a junkie. He ended up dying with over 30 grandkids. If he ever needed anything, it was provided for him by his family, he didn't have much to give away for inheritance (was poor and dyslexic his whole life) but always joked about cutting you out of the will (I got a robe) but he was a beloved man and we cherish the videos and pictures we have of him to this day and he is always a topic of conversation and one of my twins has his name as his middle name.

My other grandfather had 3 kids. Luckily he still passed with 12 grandkids. He was a mean man and lived alone after my grandma passed, when he needed to be taken care of, I was the only person willing to do it for the sake of I hope my grandkids would do the same for me if it means keeping me out of a home. He had lots to give in inheritance and the grandkids got none of it and his children sold most of it off. Whole we remember his wife and brothers fondly, he is remembered as a crotchety man.

Its not about simply having kids and a family but recognizing that that is the point of life and putting relationships first, no matter how poor you are.