Okay then. My comments/additions to Brun's decent considerations:
* Tattoos are called tramp stamps for a reason, and anything more than a few, discrete, actually decorative or cute ones is an indication of poor impulse control or rebellion against the parents (aka "Daddy Issues").
* Anything more than one of the regular pets (cat, dog) is an indication of compensation for lack of being able to stay in a stable relationship. "Red wine and pet snacks for Friday evenings" is a meme for a reason.
* Regular AND excessive use of intoxicants is a red flag in all people. Excessive alcohol use is strongly correlated with increased incidence of domestic violence (both ways).
* Women spending too much time on social media are bound to get a lot of bad ideas from her 'circles and friends' there, and are prone to erroneous meme-pop-psych explanations for things. When relationship tensions happen (as they undoubtedly will for all people), she will certainly seek out reinforcement of her ideas there, and it will be garbage that gets dragged back onto your living room carpet. That women offer shit relationship advice is a fact not limited to when it's offered to men; high SoMe use is a red flag, especially for Twitter, Instagram and Tiktok.
* Women that reach 30 yoa without having given birth, are childless for a reason (unwilling to commit to a partner, unstable and/or disagreeable personality). (If they're capable of conceiving, it's said that they get the "Baby Rabies" 😂).
* Consistently very outspoken about her (usually boilerplate leftist) political views? Red flag.
* You are not the therapist to your date or SO, and you should not attempt to be so, other than having an occasional proper talk about necessary subjects when friction or issues arise, as a supportive close friend or future mate. Trying to be the therapist turns you into a therapist and will certainly damage your relationship, even if you have very good intrapersonal intelligence and skills. If you sense that she has unhandled personal issues, it's up to her to recognize this and take the initiative to get them handled from proper professionals, not by leaning on you to be her unpaid psychologist.
* There are ofc exceptions to most things, as we all have different backgrounds and tempraments; Be aware of the warning signs and use your own best judgement.
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