this is the log of what my relay prints when this happens

1707244734.975199900 trc adding event {"id":"9ea6cc486b289f63f268bc5df29d6dad5a35786822b1e2d1c5739dca38464360","pubkey":"4c800257a588a82849d049817c2bdaad984b25a45ad9f6dad66e47d3b47e3b2f","created_at":1706292659,"kind":10002,"tags":[["r","wss://nostr.wine/","read"],["r","wss://atlas.nostr.land/","read"],["r","wss://eden.nostr.land/","read"],["r","wss://filter.nostr.wine/4c800257a588a82849d049817c2bdaad984b25a45ad9f6dad66e47d3b47e3b2f?broadcast=true","read"],["r","wss://Bevo.nostr1.com/","read"],["r","wss://a.nos.lol/","read"],["r","wss://astral.ninja/","read"],["r","wss://brb.io/","read"],["r","wss://creatr.nostr.wine/","read"],["r","wss://electra.nostr.land/","read"],["r","wss://freespeech.casa/","read"],["r","wss://lightningrelay.com/","read"],["r","wss://nostr.einundzwanzig.space/","read"],["r","wss://translate.nostr.wine/","read"],["client","Coracle","31990:97c70a44366a6535c145b333f973ea86dfdc2d7a99da618c40c64705ad98e322:1685968093690"]],"content":"","sig":"1a40196246876791779bd84ffd3f50c10a5133a6d7272922fe2e3976e21e9de99a8a3717b700fca2e04709973ed054fdda48f0e2c5eee364537d2fbc1e331951"} /replicatr/app/wsprocess.go:114

1707244734.975350556 trc replaceable event /replicatr/app/adding.go:42

this is derived from khatru code, and you can see that the event kind is 10002, which is a replaceable event

so yeah, i'm now dead certain i'm gonna find the problem in the khatru codebase somewhere

my client needs to have retry built into it of course but it was fine with those other two relays but not with primal.net and it sounds like the exact same bug, nip42, not sending an ok to continue and return the message

on the client side there is a problem too, i already added a piece where when it receives an AUTH challenge it sends a signal on a channel (this is in the client code) which then allows me pick up if there is an auth being required... this is from the go-nostr code, the "relay" client code in the root directory

the things haven't been connected together, and there is another one here... gonna spend the next day or so hunting this one and i'll nail it

these two problems i discovered because i tried to build a mirroring tool for events from one relay to another, to a relay that enforces NIP-42 auth for access, which i just got working the day before yesterday