I don't belittle homemaking, but I do belittle the idea of men choosing to be homemakers while their wives go out into the workforce (working for and with other men). It's the reversal of roles I take issue with, not the roles themselves.
I believe we should all have a full life, but that involves committing to fulfilling our state in life the best we can -- not just doing anything we feel like.
Children deserve to be raised by their parents, no matter how "shackled" the parents may feel by that at any given moment.
When husband and wife don't fulfill their roles, chaos and contention are ready to pounce. Spouses' equally important roles may have some overlap, but they are not interchangeable.
Children need dads who are dads and moms who are moms, according to God's design.